Back in April, I decided to get honest about mommyhood. On the blog, I wrote a post where I asked my close mama friends and family members about their Honest Mommy Moments and the response from my readers was OVERWHELMING! I found that you, my readers, appreciate these kinds of posts and want to see more of the real-life mom moments we all know and love.
This time, I reached out to some new and old mama friends about Stay at Home Mom Life vs Working Mom Life.
To start this topic off, I want to give you my honest opinion about being a working mama. To be quite frank, I believe I would be a terrible stay at home mom, so I give each and every one of you stay at home mamas major props. In my opinion, your job is much harder than any job I’ve ever done. This may sound weird, but I believe I am a better mom because I work. I love Austin so much, but I have found that when I get my breaks, I am way more present when I am with him. However, I have to be honest – I am one tired mama at the end of each day!
Now that I’ve given you my opinion, I wanted to share some honest answers from my brave and admirable mama friends.
Working mom of 3: “I have a ton of respect for moms who stay home full time. I’ve done both. Now I work part time – it’s my break and believe it makes me sane. It gets tough when I bring work home, but it’s all about balance.”
Working and stay at home mom of 2: “To be a working, stay at home mom is one word: HARD! You would think being able to stay home would be easy… you would think being able to work from home would be easy… but it’s not when you combine the two. I am constantly trying to balance the demands of my job and the demands of my kids. I feel major mommy guilt when I say no to my kids because of work. They don’t understand that when mommy is sitting at her desk, she’s not really “there.” And when I’m having fun with my kids, I’m constantly thinking about the work I have to do. I am so very thankful for the opportunity to stay at home with my kids, but working from home with my babies is the hardest thing I have ever done- the day is never done, so I never feel like I get to clock out. My life as a working/stay at home mom is very challenging and exhausting, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.”
Working mom of 2: “Being a working mom is hard for me because of the expectations I have for myself. I want to be great at both, especially since both involve children. Teaching is taxing in itself but nowadays, the children need so much more from you! I never want to be less than what they need. And when that job ends, I rush home to give that same energy, support, and love to my own children. There is also a sense of guilt I get from being away from them all day or being too tired to play with them, especially on the weekends. All I want to do is relax but I feel like I have to make up for the week, so it’s never ending. With that being said, I love my job and I worked so hard to get it. Therefore, I don’t want to give it up to stay at home. I truly believe that when my boys are old enough, they will respect that I didn’t give up on my dream. Hopefully they will learn to be hard workers who don’t give up on their dreams because of it.”
Working mom of 2: “Personally, I’ve been struggling with being a working mom internally lately. I love that I’m helping to provide for my family, have adult interaction & a slight break from the kids that every parent needs. But with working full-time, I also feel like I’m missing out on quality time with my kids, especially my youngest. And even more so during the summer time. My happy medium would be working part-time so I could have a few more hours during the week with my kids.”
Stay at home mom of 3: “I’d say the hardest thing for me about being a stay at home mom is feeling like I’m not contributing financially to the family. I love being with the kids and we obviously discussed the pros and cons of me quitting to be at home. But the longer you’re at home, the harder it is to get back into the working world. Especially when you’ve taken on all the responsibilities of the household that everyone is used to you doing. The working world is changing so rapidly that it’s not possible for most to just pick up where they left off 5 years before, not to mention 10-15 years if you have spent that time raising your family. Finding the time to either catch up on your prior career or research trying something new and fitting the job you used to do back into your already-packed calendar of responsibilities with kids can be extremely challenging. The other difficulty in completely devoting yourself to being a stay at home mom, is feeling to a certain extent that you’ve lost a certain part of yourself in sacrificing your path for your children. I do think it’s hard to put yourself first when you’ve had to put your priorities on hold for your kids for so many years. Do I wish I hadn’t stayed home with them? Not for a minute. It’s not always easy, but most things worth the effort don’t usually come easy.”
Working mom of 1: “I work from home which is a blessing and a curse (although I wouldn’t have it any other way). The one thing I can say is ‘the juggle is real!’ When I’m with my son, I am so happy, but when I am working I am really happy too.”
I think every mom and dad whether working or not deserve more credit than they get. Parenthood is tough, right? I’d love to hear your thoughts on what it’s like to be a working parent or a stay at home parent below!